gender wars

The fact that the term “gender wars” is even used, shows the fact how much our society exaggerates and exploits things, especially the media. If there is a war between genders, what should we call the competition within our own genders? There is more competition within our own gender (i.e. The Bachelor) than there is between the genders. Yes, women are trying to get more right and equality. However, in a war there is a winner. You win or lose the war, there is never a “tie.” To call it a war is to imply that someone is going to have to win or lose, in the case of gender there simply cannot be a winner nor a loser.

When I was younger and in high school I did believe that there was a gender war. I also though that women were much more superior to men. I think this is mainly me being involved in athletics and the frustration that can bring on when competing against boys who are obviously stronger and faster than I’ll ever be. However, now I realize that not one is better but different. A man may be better at fixing a car than me, but I may be able work with clients and customers better. I feel this is the same within genders as well. Or, it can go the other way around. We can accomplish a lot more when we put our strengths together than if we fight and point out each others weaknesses.

I really wish we could come up with some other term besides “gender wars” if we need a term at all. I just feel that is degrades what a war actually is and makes it seem as if one gender is inferior to the other. Though I must say “gender wars” does have a nice ring to it. I don’ think “gender harmonizing” or “equaling gender” would create as much talk.

Do you think that there are certain areas where genders are more in competition than others?
Do you think gender wars are correlated with the fact that our society is focused more on individualism than collectivism?